Frequently Asked Questions

A doula is a trained labor companion that provides continuous physical, emotional and informational support. There are a lot of benefits of having a doula at one’s birth. They include decreased cesarean rates, decreased use of medications for pain relief (like epidurals), decreased use of extra interventions (like Pitocin), and shorter labors. Having a doula can also increase satisfaction with the birth experience. This is often because doula can explain what’s going on during labor and birth and provide reassurance. If interventions are suggested, doula can give parents more information and encourage them to ask the right questions to make informed decisions.

In addition to their heart and hands, doulas also have a lot of comfort measures that can help the birthing person to have a more positive experience. These include aromatherapy, mellow lighting options, hot or cold packs, rebozo techniques, suggestions for laboring and birthing positions, moral support, reassurance, and verbal affirmations.

Doulas are for any family who wants to be supported during birth. We attend births at hospitals, birth centers, and at home.

My true agenda is to help ensure that your birth plan is acknowledged and followed as much as possible. I don’t project my own values or goals onto you, nor do I make any decisions for you.

I don’t want you to have any regrets about your decisions, so I like to ask you prenatally where you are on pain medication preference scale. We discuss what you’d like me to do if you ask for an epidural. Some families choose to have a code word for letting their support people know that they are truly ready for epidural.

Sometimes when labor gets intense and things are happening quickly, the doula might be the only person in the room actively trying to make sure your wishes and the birth plan are respected. This is my purpose in being present in a family’s birth space.

I don't replace your partner. I know pregnancy, labor, and birth, and your partner knows you – together, we make a great team. If your partner wants to be more emotionally involved, I can take care of physical comfort measures. If your partner wants to be hands on, I can show them techniques (some of them require quite a bit of muscle so they are perfect for many partners to take charge of), while supporting the mother emotionally.

Sometimes, however, the partner feels overwhelmed by the birthing experience and seeing their loved one in pain. I provide support to the partner, too, by doing things such as making sure the partner has something to eat, checking in to see how they are doing, and validating feelings. If the partner feels overwhelmed and wants to chill in a chair or go for a walk, they can do that knowing their loved one is in good hands with her doula. In this way the partner doesn’t have to be solely responsible for the mother’s emotional and physical well-being.

I hear your hesitancy about having someone else present during such an intimate experience. I felt like that with my own births.

The truth is, if you are having your baby at a hospital, you will have quite a few strangers at your birth: a nurse you haven't met, a doctor you may or may not have met, residents, etc. You may see your favorite doctor for your prenatal appointments, but your chances of having them on the day you go into labor are slim, as the entire OB practice rotates through their shifts. It may actually be reassuring to have a familiar face such as your doula in your corner. And don't worry, I will honor your desire for privacy whenever you'd want it.

Nurses and midwives can be compassionate and supportive, but their role is very different from that of a doula. Nurses and midwives are focused on clinical tasks, such as monitoring the baby’s heart rate, taking mom’s vitals, performing vaginal exams, charting (there is a lot of charting!), and often catching the baby (though moms can do this too). They are usually extremely busy. Even if they wanted to provide emotional support or had skills for physical comfort measures, they usually don’t have the time to do so consistently.

It is also important to note that medical staff members usually have shifts. Once their shift is over they leave, and you suddenly have a new person taking care of you. Your doula on the other hand stays with you throughout your entire birth experience (with occasional exceptions), so you always have the comfort of a trusted person in your corner. A doula works for the birthing person, not her care provider or her birth place, and therefore has the mother’s needs as her main priority.

Yes, hiring me as your doula is a considerable investment. I am one of the more experienced doulas locally, and my fee reflects that.

I encourage you to consider the cost of NOT hiring a doula, including
- increased interventions (inductions, Pitocin, breaking waters, Cesarean births)
- feeling traumatized by the birth experience
- mental and physical health affecting bonding with your baby, feeding journey, and relationship with your partner

I encourage you to spend your money on things that matter the most to you. Only you can decide what those are! It could be an updated nursery, a great stroller, or a supported and empowering birth experience.

Birth is such an important event in the life of a woman. Her experience can affect her for the rest of her life physically, emotionally, and spiritually. A traumatic experience may hinder bonding between the mother and the new baby, while an empowering experience might give the mother some extra oomph to handle the often difficult work of taking care of newborn while being sleep-deprived and exhausted. I want to help mothers have a positive birth experience and a strong foundation for their family life; after all, strong families are what strong societies are made of.

I took my doula training in the fall of 2016. I've supported over 100 births since then, and still love it.

I prefer to support births in Worcester, Worcester County, and Central Mass, but have traveled as far as 1.5 hrs for the right families on occasion.

If after our initial interview we both feel that we are a good fit - congratulations! I am just as happy as you are! The next steps would be to sign the contract and make the first payment. After those are taken care of, we can put our first prenatal meeting on the calendar.

My fee is listed on the Work with Me page. The first half is due at the time of contract signing, to reserve your spot on my calendar. The second half is due by 36th weeks of pregnancy.